Making Up - Mending Your Broken Heart

How do you get your ex back? How can you make them realize what you had was so great? This is your guide to healing your broken heart and making up.

The first thing you have to do is realize that whatever happen is both of your faults. If you cheated, they probably weren't giving you what you needed so you looked elsewhere. If they cheated, you were the one not giving what they needed. Of course, the cheater is purely responsible for the cheating. The pure blame does not with the person who was cheated on. But the fault lies in both party's laps.

Most important, you both need to forgive and forget. True forgiveness means that you let go of all of the anger related to the incident. You must never mention it again. You never let it cloud your relationship. If you cannot do this, you won't be able to truly make up for a period of time.

You have to apologize if it is your fault. Too many times, after people say "I'm sorry," there's an "Oops I did it again," moment. You're not Britney Spears. It's not cute. When you say you are sorry, you have to commit to changing. You have to mean it, otherwise you can forget about making up.

To get their forgiveness you may have to chase them a bit. You have show them you want them to forgive you, but that doesn't mean sending them hundreds of emails or stalking them. Just because you send out some signals that you would like to make up doesn't mean they are going to come rushing back. You need to put your heart on the line and your ego in check.

You may have to settle for something less than you wanted. It may be that they are only ready to be friends when you want a full fledged partner. It might take awhile to build that trust up again. Give them some space and time to get to know you again if trust is an issue. Eventually you will be able to make up if you accept what they are willing to offer you right now.

Lastly, when trying to get someone back you have to know when to stop trying and heal your broken heart. You need to know when to move on. If you are in the position where your partner is unable to forgive you you must be willing to let go and begin looking for new relationships. This may be the best thing to do even if it breaks your heart. Whatever went wrong in this relationship, your soul mate is still out there. Getting them back may stop you from meeting them!