It is natural to feel elements of guilt from time to time when you are a working mum. Sometimes you feel that whatever you do, you are doing the wrong thing. If you decide to stay home and look after your children, you think that some people are looking down their noses at you, accusing you of not contributing enough. If you decide to go back to work after childbirth, you feel guilty about that option as well and feel that some people are criticising you for not giving enough attention to your children. It appears that you cannot win. Understand that it is quite usual for you to feel lost and somewhat alone and you might like to consider professional coaching options. This kind of specialised online coaching for women can help you realise that all is not lost, that others are in a similar position to you and that you can really look forward with optimism and confidence.
Whether you decide to go back to a career, or to take the bold move of setting up your own business, more power to you! There's nothing wrong with your decision and if you want to be successful, you need to be at peace with yourself. A working mum has everything to be thankful for and she should be confident that she is providing for her family and for herself, very well.
You know how you sometimes feel guilty about a situation when you are confused and do not know all the facts? This is a danger here. Come out of the darkness and understand all the facts, reducing your stress level to manageable positions. If you're well-informed, you know what all the risks and opportunities are and are well placed to take a good, educated view of your position. By finding out all these facts, you will have demonstrated a great deal of internal strength and this makes you feel so much better as well.
Surround yourself with people who support you and who are positive. All those naysayers need to be in the far distance and better yet, you should creatively erase their contact details! By surrounding yourself with positive people in your support group, you will be able to turn to them with any issues or challenges, getting a lot of confidence from the positive feedback that they will give. Don't expect them to take on all the problem solving for you; quite the contrary. This is definitely a two-way street and by contributing to the value of the group proactively, you're on the right track. Yet another valuable source of support for you can be found within online coaching.
When you are planning for the big challenge ahead, travel light! This means that you should get rid of anything that is not appropriate from the world all around you. Create a very positive workspace all around you, which is very important if you are working from home, have your own business or are telecommuting. You will be amazed how much more positive and focused you feel, when you have a clear environment all around you.
Amanda Alexander is the Director of Coaching Mums and a widely renowned ICF-accredited coach who delivers professional coaching programmes to working mums across the globe who long for more time, balance and fulfilment in their busy lives. Download our free eBook especially for working mums with 5 easy ways to achieve balance.
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